Thursday, March 26, 2009

New Year's Eve



Once again, we stayed home. Some of our New Year's traditions are drinking pink champagne and Welch's sparkling grape juice, eating shrimp and new potatoes, watching the ball drop in Times Square on TV, kissing each other (Mike has never missed a New Year's Eve kiss in ten years), and going outside and banging on pots and pans with wooden spoons to scare away the evil spirits. On New Year's Day, we do whatever it is we want to do more of in the coming year; this year, we all took an afternoon nap at the same time. Sublime domesticity!

These pictures are actually re-enacted poses; I accidentally deleted ALL of our original pix taken 'round midnight tryin to finger out my new camera. The kids and Mike were great about retaking them and they turned out even better!










Monday, March 23, 2009

Just a few more holiday pix...

and then I'll post the whole lot of 'em-- boys, Daddy-o and all-- on Snapfish. Blogger is sooo tedious for uploading more than one photo. I've been thinking of switching to Picasa for uploading masses of photos since it's Google and tied to my blog anyway. Plus, with Picasa I can always "play dumb" and say I didn't know that all the photos I had posted on my blog about Mara were being stored in a photo album on Picasa (which is true).

So here's Christmas Day, part deux:







First Snowsuit!








SECOND Snowsuit!
(we couldn't resist the pink camo bunting from basspro.com)







First pair of long johns! (and they're Care Bears, which she loves because she has two Care Bears puzzles in her bedroom that she takes apart every morning)







First Christmas stocking!
(in pink camo to match the bunting, of course)






And that's all I have the patience and time for today...I have so many photos to share-- perhaps too many?...it's just that she has changed so much since December!

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

18 Month Well Baby




You've come a long way, baby!


Today Mara had her 18 month well baby visit at Children's Hospital. We really shouldn't even call them well baby visits anymore-- Mara is 100% toddler now, there's just nothing babyish about her anymore!

We were seen by her regular pediatrician again, Dr. Katherine "Kiki" Traylor. Mara said Kiki for the first time (altho' it sounded very similar to cookie) and kissed and hugged her doctor when we ran into her in the hallway (Mara cannot just hang out in the exam room waiting for her appointment, not knowing she has an adoring public outside-- oh no, we have to walk the halls and they have find us to examine her). Kiki is the best baby doctor ever, she lets Mara wear her watch, and wear her lanyard with beads on it, and use her stethoscope and otoscope. And then when we got home, Mara pretended to be a doctor with her (real) stethoscope (from my days as a CNA) and Fisher Price otoscope. Dr. Mara looked in both of my ears and gave me a hug and said "YAY!" There had been much celebration today at her appointment and no shots. Celebration because for the first time she had increases in weight, height and head circumference...all at once. After the doctor measured her head again that is. The person who measured her head either did it wrong or read it wrong because at first it appeared as if her head had gotten smaller on the growth chart. Since I attested to the fact that she needed a bigger sun hat this Spring, we knew it wasn't possible and of course when the doctor re-measured it, her head had grown an inch-- being off by an inch is not a big deal except when it comes to head circumference!

Dr. Kiki was glad to hear that we had weaned Mara off formula and that she is mostly sleeping through the night (knock wood) and in her own bed in her own room, mostly waking for comfort. I explained to her that according to our licensing agency's policy, after 18 months we are not supposed to sleep in her room with her. I thought that would be a really difficult transition, but from the very first night that we left her door and ours open so that we would hear her if she woke up, she came and found us! She actually crawled into bed with us and we didn't even notice until we woke up. Such a sweet thing to wake up and discover a child snuggled between us, especially such a wee girl. It makes me realize how much we babied our boys, especially Hammy.

The harder transition is getting used to sleeping with my husband again! His new CPAP mask has a much better seal than any he has worn before so he sounds less like Darth Vader and more like a very quiet humidifier. It's nice to be sleeping in the same bed again-- hopefully it won't lead to any more little people who don't sleep through the night, because I am loving it. Our bed is a king-size Tempur Pedic mattress and we have it safely on the floor now with a flat screen TV for watching movies (and the occasional missed sitcom on hulu) so our bedroom is a refuge from the childish chaos in the rest of the house.

But I digress...Dr. Traylor gave Mara three books today, and told her she loved her! She is so sweet and we both feel such a strong connection with her. It's very good to have a baby doctor (and a mainstream pediatrician at that!) whom I adore. She wants me to call her and let her know how it goes on April 8 and 10, since we won't need to see her again until Mara is two years old! Can you imagine? Two! It sounds like such a long time from now, but I know it will be here in the blink of an eye.

One more thing...before I forget: I need to document Mara's Mongolian spots so that I have a record of exactly what they look like and where they are. Dr. Traylor recommended taking new pictures and I am also going to fill out a SOAP note diagram showing the location of all of them. I may even measure them and record the size. If it sounds like I am being neurotic, it is only because of a very unfortunate situation that recently occurred in Denver County. A foster child who was two showed up for a weekly visit with a scratch. When the bio parent brought it to the Case Worker's attention, there was no incident report (a document that foster parents fill out to record illness, injury to self or others, and other incidents such as property damage or truancy). With the lack of an incident report, an exam was conducted and bruises were found on the child. Whether or not they were the result of abuse or the child being two may never be proven, but as is often the case the child was removed from the foster home and the foster parent lost her license. The same thing could easily happen to us, and the thought of Mara having to endure separation from us until experts could confirm that she has Mongolian spots makes me sick. Someone who didn't know that she has Mongolian spots or what they are could easily assume she is bruised. I did not know what they were and I am a Massage Therapist! I assumed they were bruises and took pictures of them when she got out of her body cast. The bruises were consistent with her injuries. They are on her upper back, one of her ribs and her buttocks. There is also one on her chest, that I didn't even notice (even though I still massage her every.single.day.) until I saw pictures of her in a tank top with spaghetti straps on her fist birthday. I was painfully aware of stares at the swimming pool this Summer, but no one said anything. We get funny looks as it is. So this Summer, I'm going to get her and the boys those long-sleeved surfer type suits with bike-style shorts for the pool. We'll save ourselves some stares and time applying sunscreen!

That's all for now, will some pix of our three leprechauns and St. Patty's Day festivities as soon as I get my battery re-charged (figuratively and literally!!)

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Christmas Pix!


The long-awaited, much-anticipated Christmas photo barrage begins now! I have hundreds from the holidays and have literally taken thousands already with my new camera, so here I will limit myself to pix of Mara and her gifts.

Besides, I can no longer post them anywhere else due to a big to-do about the laws regarding internet confidentiality with regard to posting images of foster children online. It was the top agenda item at our last foster parent association meeting (above trampoline safety and an article about the death of a child who was not being watched by his foster mom and hung himself on a safety net). Suffice to say, we are getting rid of our trampoline (not due to that incident but the horror stories of brain injuries and paralyzation and death that followed). And the agency Director made it very clear that we are not allowed to post photos of foster children on Facebook or MySpace. She also said, "And if you are blogging I want to know about it" (so nobody tell her, okay?!) My blog is extremely private now and as far as I'm concerned it ain't nobody's business! And it's funny, but she didn't say anything about using sites like flickr, photobucket, Picasa, snapfish or YouTube...I know, I'm bad. But I do not see the harm in sharing photos of a beautiful happy child who is thriving in foster care. Who knows, it could even promote foster parenting?

Anyway, here are some highlights from Christmas, while it's still technically Winter.

This is the kitchen Santa brought Mara:


It's from Nova Naturals.


What's going on in here and why didn't someone wake me up?


A bag of pastel Mega Blocks bigger than her!


Daddy, help please?


She walked right past the kitchen without noticing it...


And again, doesn't notice the kitchen...


Look at that pretty ornament!


What's that over there? (she *almost* looked at it that time!)


Oh, some wrapping paper!


Cookies, yum!


Mommy, let's have cookies!


Finally, Moose showed her the kitchen.


She was very interested in it, once she noticed it.


Opening a present from Mrs. Claus while her brothers play with the girlie blocks.







COOKIE BREAK!





The tree was real and Mara would touch it and giggle!


Mara opening presents (in convenient holiday-themed gift boxes) with a butter knife...


I just wanted a photo of all three chitlins by the tree, is that too much to ask?




Mara touched all the gifts and said, "pitty!" (pretty)